So since last we spoke plans have changed and have already been set into motion. Yesterday was by and far the worst day of my life to date.
A. The two children from bean-town have gone back with their grandma and Aunt. I have promises that we'll keep in touch and we'll have plenty of camera-phone time. Which is nice but doesn't change the fact that I'll never be daddy again.
B. She's gone to Abeline to be with her boyfriend who she met online only a couple of weeks ago. She's supposed to call when she got in so I did a little searching and called the number that I THOUGHT was his. Turns out the number I got was the number to a different guy she was with that she met on the geek to geek dating site back in January while she was still pregnant with my son. They've gone out on a date before I we started walking down this road to divorce. As I'm talking to this guy I discover that he never knew she was married and even worse that she had no children and was a pastry chef at a bakery. She's denied the very existance of her children.
My wife has abandoned her children to follow her selfish desires. She's destroyed her family utterly because she just couldn't keep it in her pants, so to speak. I'm twelve brands of betrayed, several of them name brands. I'm all sorts of hurt and can't believe that she would ever do such a thing.
Part of me wants her out of my life forever. Part of me wants her to get the help she needs that I know she won't.
The plus side is that I have our son, and always will. The plus side is that she's no longer living under my roof. I don't have to see her every day and be reminded of just how awful someone can be. Let's be honest, if there were no children involved I'd be way better. Ten times at least. I'll get over her and I'll get over her quickly. But her children deserve so much more.
The thing is, I don't know how I'll ever be able to trust a woman that I've let into my life again. I did nothing but devote myself completely to her and raise her children for her while she went out and fucked with us. It will take me a very long time to forgive her for that. Right now I simply don't have that kind of strength.
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Well, this post is old, however I wonder how you are doing and it is insightful to hear a male's side. This sounds almost identical to my "marriage" soon to be divorced after 26 years. a twenty year old son and a nine year old daughter. We didn't exist either.
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